I like to read books about style and image, especially in relation to psychology. I used to think that concern for how we present ourselves was a frivolous pastime for bored housewives and the eternally vain (who? moi?!), but over the years I’ve come to realise that personal image, style, fashion… whatever you want to call it, is a fundamental part of self-development and integral to self-confidence.
When society “progressed” from the social rules that used to dictate attire, we gave ourselves freedom of expression and the liberation to eschew the importance of image. Yet, what we lost, was perhaps the sense that how we dress says a lot about us; who we are, what we care about, how much we respect ourselves… and those around us.
Living in the Middle East reminds me of the obligation to dress for the comfort of others, and whilst I don’t wish to conform against my will, I do see value in putting in time, effort and careful consideration into what we wear.
For the next 6 days I will share the lessons I have learned (and am yet to fully put into practise!):
IF YOU’RE BORED OF STYLE, YOU’RE BORED OF LIFE!
We’ve all been there, myself regularly in fact: when putting in the effort to look good every day just seems somehow so exhausting. Shouldn’t people see passed how you look and enjoy what you have to offer beyond the exterior?
The truth is, how someone presents themself on the outside is a reflection of what’s going on inside, and we all read one another from the way we look; it’s human nature, so why try to deny it?
Remember, there’s no such thing as looking good “effortlessly”, even though we are led to believe it. I used to live with a friend who looked put together and stylish every single day. Before I lived with her, I assumed she just had that gift for throwing things on and looking fabulous, but once I saw behind the scenes I realised how much effort and time was spent in order to achieve daily perfection.
So – lesson number 1; if you want to look stylish, you’ve got to make the effort. Build a wardrobe of pieces that make you look fantastic, compliment your figure and colouring and work well together to give you variety and options for different occasions. And chuck out the stuff you know you shouldn’t wear, so in a moment of weakness, you have no choice but to look fantastic!
OK, I’m not saying it’s easy and this is not something that can be achieved over night. Nor is it something that once accomplished will last forever, it’s an ongoing process of development and refinement. But if you’re not in the game… you can’t hope to win it.
And if you can’t find the motivation for it, maybe there is something inside you that needs to be dealt with first. Try reading: You Are What You Wear: What your clothes reveal about you. And uncover those un-stylish skeletons in your subconscious closet…
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